Rebound

Here's a story from my friend Ms. Palay:

He was my crush way back in Elementary (Grade 5) until I transferred to another school. Almost 10 years that we didn't have any communication. But every year, I remember his birthday because it's easy to memorize the date: July 1.

Last July 2, he texted me. He got my number through a friend. So he texted me because he wanted to inform me that there will be a reunion. Then I replied: "Belated happy birthday!!!". He was shocked because he thought I'll just ignore his text and that I didn't remember him anymore. Since then, we always text each other 'till dawn. Then from texting, we were talking for hours on the phone. Can you just imagine, 6 hours EVERYDAY!

After few days, he asked something...He asked if I know someone... because this girl has the same surname as I am.

"I don't know her, why?"
"Um...she's my girlfriend."

So I was shocked because she already have a girlfriend yet he's still talking o me for hours (like he's single). So I asked him if he's just like that to all of his friends.

"It's only you."

So I said "I think there's something wrong. it should be your girlfriend whom you're gonna talk for hours with. You should be more open to her."
"Do you think I'm going to talk to you if my girlfriend has time for me?"

*OUCH*

"Oh OK, so what am I? A 'rebound'?"
"Nope."

One time, after a week-long of talking, he saw me on webcam. And again, after weeks of talking, he said that he has a crush on me. We just continued with our sleepless nights just talking with each other. Sometimes we just do sound trip and sing to each other. Their love was starting to fade while we're getting to be super sweet like we're a couple. The only thing that's missing was to say I LOVE YOU to each other but we're so together in spite of not saying such.

August 15. We met each other again. He was so excited to meet me (I think it is because that I'm so beautiful! Haha). One of my friend asked him if how's he and his girlfriend to which his reply "IT'S OBSCURE ANYMORE". I just did not comment 'bout that. Then when we started talking to each other, he has this jealous effect that why did I keep talking to my other guy friend.

Then we moved on, go go go. I got a job and even if I was so tired from work (I always get home like 3am in the morning), we still talk to each other (just for 30 minutes). One time, I made him jealous. I told him I have this crush on a cute bartender. Then he was teasing me 'bout my crush. Then I said "Don't worry, you will be our Ninong of OUR baby."

"Ah ok, Fine. I'll be the Ninong then. Goodnight." For real? He just said goodnight like that???

The next day I asked why is he so affected last night.
"Do you really wanna know why?"
"Yes, if I need to know."
"Bebi Gurl, I do now love you!!!!"
He calls me Bebi Gurl, and I call him Bebi Boi. Isn't that sweet!!!? (it all started in Pet Society, game application in Facebook). Anyways, I was shocked as usual. He then said, "I hope there's nothing going to change between us..."
"Of course, there's going to be no change at all."

The "ritual" of talking everyday goes on until I resigned September 24th. That's why on the 25th we went to Mall of Asia with elementary friends. That day, he somewhat doesn't want to talk to me like he has a problem. So there, I saw his facebook, it looks like his girlfriend wants to have him back. His girlfriend showed too much affection for him on Facebook.

Ondoy time. I told him we need to talk. Then, yes, we've talked and I said "Why's it like that... can you just tell me that you and your girlfriend are together again?"
"Yes, you can say that..."

I was in super moment in silence... Then I said... "Yeah, I figured because I can see that in your Facebook page. I am not blind, and definitely not stupid...But I'm confused. You told me that you really love your girlfriend yet you also told me that you love me too. So how's that? I think that's impossible."

He replied, "...there are really such things that you both love them... it's just that, you love one more than the other."

*OUCH!!!!!!!!!* *super OUCH!!!!*

"So, you love your girlfriend more, huh?"

"Yes"
Huwaaah! Then I said, "Ah ok... ok..."
After Ondoy, We just talk about the same topic and our communication started to lessen.

October 3. "I accept the fact already. But I still feel sad about it. It's just sad because we already built this "relationship" but it just got wasted."
We both said "I hope our friendship will not be ruined."
So we moved on like nothing happened. We played badminton with Elementary friends. Then sometimes he calls me if he has nothing to do. Then, once again, I saw in his FB page their super public display of affection.

October 21. I told him, "I think we should stop communicating with each other 'coz I think that's the right thing to do."
"But I thought you're ok with it?" He said it in a mad voice.
"Yes I am ok... but not really ok okok but there is still .1% that can grow anytime... (...if we're still in the same situation, right?) ...I just don't want to get hurt again in the end. It's like a cycle that's why we have to end this cycle. We have to stop talking to each other."

For him, it's like...nothing happened...

October 26. I uploaded 85 pictures. He saw one picture one of my friends holding his graduation picture. He texted me and said, "Why does Mara holding my graduation picture?"
Then I gave him a cold answer. "Oh really?"
"Yes, I think he was holding my grad pic."
"Oh really now."
"So why is he holding it?"
"I don't know."
"Why does your replies seem like you're really mad at me?"
"Oh no I'm sorry I'm just busy because my bestfriend's here."
"When you see Nathaniel (my other friend) next time, can you give back my graduation picture? Do not worry, I'll give back yours."
"OK SURE"
"Tnx"

12am. He said, "Btw, tnx 4 d friendship. Hihi. I'm now ok! Apir! I want to give back your pic that you've given me. See ya.". I didn't reply and that was the last. The rest, was all in Facebook. He even became so vocal 'bout his relationship with his girlfriend: "I LOVE MY BHIE". Then he posted A LOT of pictures of them dating and they were sooo sweet.

My friends started to get pissed when he posted a really offensive comment on my FB page. In return, my friends backfired him with below-the-belt comments. And then they got more pissed when he removed one of my friends on his FB. Then there's this one Video in his FB with a caption "Not everyone that looks like a street guy is bad. There are also rich people which fancy dresses and gorgeous hair that has such bad character. Ooops, I did not say that, it's Jay."

I just kept quiet with that statement. I just kept myself busy, improving my beauty etc. At first, the reason why I wanted to be so beautiful is for him to regret letting me go. But now looking at his picture with his girlfriend, I felt disgusted. I really can't imagine anymore myself with him. EW.

Before, I was so insecure with his girlfriend... not realizing her face was photoshopped (TRUE!). Then my friends kept on backfiring them on FB. Now, I can't see anymore his girlfriend on his FB including their album. I kept searching some stuff on his FB then I realized that his girlfriend was on super dooper mega PRIVATE MODE!!!

Nevertheless, it was all in the past. I have totally moved on. And btw, I have a new love life. I'll share it to you soon. And this time, I'm gonna make sure I'll have a happy ending. ;-)

Can I

Can I go there and be there?

Can I just hug you?

Can I just take away your pain?

Can I be the one who'll face your problems right now?

... Can I just sacrifice myself just for you to be happy?...

I Will Be Here

I will be here if you need company.

I will be here if you need someone to talk to.

I will be here if someone made you feel bad.

I will be here if your situation isn't good.

I will be here whether you're happy or in sorrow.

But being here doesn't always mean I'll be really at your side all the time. It shows assurance that no matter what, (by will, by heart, by soul) I'm just one text/call/e-mail/IM away from you, ready to comfort you, ready to support you, ready to make you happy.

I'll be here...

War of Love

"If you really love a person...

Please fight for that person...

Fight for love...

Don't let that person fell in-love with someone else most especially if you knew that person loves you too."

Then Came The Past

Dear BOS,

I'd like to share my story on Love.

I was always looking forward to find my right guy. And its been years that I finally met him. I was dating Mr. A for three months and I'm really happy that I found my ideal guy in him.

He's tall rich (ok don't get me wrong, I'm not a golddigger. I just want a guy stable so I don't have to feed him or what)

generous (again, I'm not a golddigger, it's just what he is. haha)

very sweet

intelligent

drives

chef

He was consistent in those three months and our dreams is like exactly the same, that is why I accepted his offer of love.

Days after, he became so busy, because he was the consultant chef of a certain company. I understand that fact since we already knew our priorities in the beginning. But the communication became less and less. And I was starting to get worried. Days of no communication became weeks of no communication.

I began telling this story to my closest friends and they were all giving me the same advice: to move on.

Realizing things, yes I decided to move on and started dating this guy, Mr. B.

Mr. B is similar to Mr. A. The difference is that, Mr. B is like my best friend. In just days, Mr. B knew all my flaws and negative side even my darkest secrets. Yet, in spite all these, he still accepted me. With Mr. A, he also accepts me for who I am but I felt like he doesn't have time for me anymore. Both guys are very dedicated to work. But in spite of being busy, Mr. B gave me the right/enough attention/time that I needed.

I answered Mr. B after two weeks. And what's good about it, Mr. B is still consistent.About another two weeks later. Mr. A came back. He was sincerely asking for forgiveness. There was an emergency that he has to leave for the States for a week or two..And he was again courting to have me back.

I haven't told anyone bout the situation except you Sal and your fellow readers. I never told anyone of them since that I still have feelings for Mr. A.

I never wanted to be polygamous. Please..help...

Thank You and more power to your blog.

Ms. AB

Dear Ms. AB

First of all, thank you for sharing with us your love story.

It is natural for us that we don't just tell it right away to both parties because

1. You don't want them to be hurt

2. You want to really make the right decision

3. You want to know what you're heart and mind really feel and think.

In my opinion, it is ok to keep them both but not too long. you can't just choose right away because what if you choose Mr. A but then you realize that Mr. B will really be the one who will give you true love and happiness (or vice versa). You can't just give up someone for the other.

With Mr. A:

You have to know his side first

Clear out everything

Set things out

Then:

Talk to both of them..heart to heart..of course in a different time and place.

Then weigh your options. You have to weigh options seriously.

I think this will be a battle of who will truly accept you for who you are, who will really give you time and attention and who will not take you for granted.

I hope my advice will really help you and again, thank you for sharing us your story :-)

Real Feel

I'm a type of person who loves social networks like Facebook and Twitter. Since I have no time in mingling with other people in the real world, such networks gave me a great opportunity to meet different kinds of people. Another reason is why I somewhat don't mingle anymore in the real world is because for me, it's such a waste of time and e-f-f-o-r-t to

go out,

get well-dressed,

always check posture,

always be aware of the body language

always have confidence

know how to approach

etc etc etc.

While in social networks, just answer the questions like "what do want in a person?" blah blah, describe yourself (good thing there's like a survey so you don't have to make a write-up bout yourself. These surveys will generate in a "match making" search engine where people type in their preference in a person and if you've passed in their preference, your profile will show up in the results! isn't it that fast and easy!), and upload your pictures and you're ready to go.

In real life dating...you need to put much effort and oftentimes, you need to put your best foot forward. While in social networks, usually, through surveys, you put the right description bout yourself. (But also beware of fake people and/or posers.)

Since 14 years old, I'm already active in social networks even in online-dating sites (could you believe that!) because I have no time to go out and date. I'm usually the "home-school-home" guy (aw, such a good boy.). It's been six years of cyber romance and yes, usually, I bring that cyber love into real life...but it doesn't last that long..the longest, I think, was 3 years.

Cyber romance isn't that different in the real world. If you're going to be serious about it, you'll see that people are more real in the cyber world than in the real world because rejection in cyber space isn't that harsh than in the real world. In real world, we always tend to put our best foot forward, we try to avoid our negative side to be noticed while in the cyber world, we just tend to be ourselves. And lots of people are into social networks and online-dating sites nowadays and with that, you have great probability that you'll find the right one for you.

But like everyone, I also wanted to find the right person in the real world...(thinking..) 'Coz I think it's better to see and date a real live person than through pictures and webcam I guess...

I never experienced the "real" stuff till I had a vacation with my friends...

It's scary 'coz I hate rejections (like saying "I DON'T LIKE YOU" in front of my face.)...But I still did it.

The whole time I just showed my "truest" self...

Anyways, that night, I was so eager to talk to this particular person (a friend of a friend) 'coz I felt something different and turned out that I'm so interested in this person. I chatted with the person for hours. I wasn't expecting anything since I never expect someone to like me in the real world. But the person likes me too! haha. Just love it! hahaha. The person appreciates me for who I am and the person would like give it (love opportunity) a shot. And the rest is history.

The moment the person decided to give it a shot, I was...overjoyed because it was my first time not to be rejected in the real world (aw...). Rejection sucks in the real world, but when someone accepted you and kept you for real...it's so magical...it's such an awesome feeling.

In that experience, it change my whole perspective about these two worlds. If you want to play it safe in Love, go cyber world. But if you want to take risks, go real world. Besides, in Love, risks can totally be worth it :-)

P.S. In the real world, you really have to be R-E-A-L ;-)

The Turtle and The Rabbit

Rabbit didn't appreciate Turtle at first. I think it's because Rabbit was busy too much with looking at such beautiful scenery or mingling with different species or having fun. Rabbit was too busy hoping (jumping) with different activities in life. Yes. Rabbit's too busy...just to forget how painful and tragic love was...

Turtle was...simply happy and enjoying such time with friends. Turtle, that time, definitely needs a time out. Hahaha, can you just imagine how hard it is to be like a turtle, walking so slow on hot sand? Tiring huh..

So Rabbit spent time with friends, ate lunch, enjoyed the beach while Turtle...slept. They're too different from each other. With Turtle's personality (of being mysterious), Rabbit became curious. Rabbit wanted to know more about Turtle. Rabbit became interested on Turtle's being different...being so slow and boring and why does Turtle have to sleep the whole time rather than enjoying the island.

That night, Rabbit had the courage to invite friends, most especially the Turtle to dance and enjoy the whole night. As usual, Turtle's slow in the dance floor. But the magic began.

Turtle infected the whole dance floor. Music and Time went slow and it was just the Rabbit and the Turtle. Rabbit was simply amazed by the Turtle's eyes. And Turtle's smile was just...soothing. His infectious smile made the pain go away inside Rabbit's body. Just as Rabbit's enlightened with what was happening, Turtle went back to the table to rest. Soon, Rabbit began to feel a lil' bit exhausted and sat beside Turtle.

Rabbit started a private conversation with Turtle. Turtle told everything to Rabbit. As this conversation went deeper and deeper... Rabbit felt comfortable with Turtle.

Rabbit, held hands with Turtle

Rabbit, looked at Turtle

Rabbit...hugged Turtle...

Rabbit knew that there will be sacrifices along their way...But Rabbit is willing to...

"the rabbit decided to stop jumpin' and just wanted to walk with the turtle...

i think the reason why the rabbit kept on jumpin'... 'coz rabbit has shorter life span than turtle..

the rabbit just want to make most out of rabbit's life...

the rabbit wants to make sure that rabbit loved the turtle truly before rabbit dies..

yup the rabbit's heart beats faster than the turtle..because rabbit's jumpin all the time..

life is short for the rabbit..

what makes the turtle to be fast like the rabbit is to swim in the ocean.

but the rabbit will drown...

rabbit's knows the risks...rabbit knows rabbit will die if rabbit will join with the turtle..

but as they went to the shore..

rabbit's ready to die for love

then the turtle realize the rabbit really loves turtle

rabbit dives...

so as the turtle..

yes...rabbit was drowning...

seconds later...

rabbit was on top of the turtle's shell

rabbit swam with the turtle

turtle help rabbit...

from then on...

they didn't leave each other"s side."

I am the Rabbit.

Turtle's my present.

By The Shore

That night, I found myself wandering under the moon.

Feet on shallow waters.

Eyes on stars.

.. Thinking what my life would be if there's someone who could love me for real.

Past just left me. Past, who always promised me eternal love, left 2 weeks ago without notice.

Who is to blame? Is it I who just kept on loving the so-called "the one" or the person who just kept on saying "I love you"..

Random thoughts, random questions.. I was just swimming in emotions because love has failed again.. I just wish someone could really love me without even telling me..

Before I get drowned by my "emo self", I went back to hang out with friends, had a few drinks and started dancing with them. We danced till we dropped. I danced till I ran out of energy. I wanna get really tired so I could ease the pain..

Heart wanted to be happy and believed that it is time to get over with it. Someone is more deserving and more worth to love. Fast as it seems, I'm starting to move on with the past. Dancing really do help in moving on (yes, in my case) and of course, the people around you who appreciates and loves you for who you are. Heart began to face the fact that it's over with the past and on with the present.. not realizing present is just around the corner...

Dangerously Speaking

Can I say something? I wanna say something that is totally liberating and say everything what's on my mind.

I can say some

negative comments

insults

liberating POV's

cruel thoughts

harsh words

etc.

I am not a negative or a bad person. I just need an outlet where I can put such words and thoughts away from me to always make myself positive.

Heart Is Seasoned

The heart. It consists with different emotions and feelings that leads a person to move or act. But there's one particular thing that is produced by our hearts that can truly change our ways. Love. Love has different definitions to different people and it is based by our own personal experiences. Nevertheless, we all encounter Love.

Allergic To Work

It all began when I worked for two major companies as a Chef. I really did love my job. I do love cooking as well as baking. Because I love it so much, I ended up being a workaholic. I did work so hard to the point that I found myself sleeping late, waking up early, eating a lot (because I needed tons of energy), fighting stress and oftentimes, ended up getting sick.

It was so hard to get sick while working. Unfortunately, I had no choice but to work. I tended to eat a lot just to fight stress. After six months (in each company), I can't stand anymore the stress, pain and such illnesses that I decided to stop. Days later, Mom realized and told me that I can't work long and that I am "allergic to work". Well, I agree. So now, I am in search of ways how to earn without working so hard. I am a certified WORKALLERGIC!